Child Behavior is a key component to your child’s success.
There have been many books written on Child Behavior. Some authors relate misbehavior’s route cause as attention seeking.
Remember, well behaved children are not always well behaved. Have you ever been to some-sort of function (wedding, family reunion, or friend’s house) and someone else’s child is so well behaved that on the way home, or the next time your child misbehaves, your first reaction is to say “Why can’t you be behave as well as Brendan?”
Let me tell you, Brendan has his moments just like any other child.
A great way to determine the goal of your child’s misbehavior is to look at your own feeling and reaction to the problem.
What are your thoughts, feelings, and actions to this situation? It goes back to your display of emotion or lack there of that will usually intensify your child’s reaction to something.
If they are trying to get your attention through negative behavior, sit down with them and brainstorm how they can accomplish the same thing but with positive behavior. Remember that everything has an opposite. The law of polarity tells us this and it is an absolute truth.
When dealing with these transitions first and always take into account your child’s character. Child Behavior transitions are often stressful to both parents and children; furthermore understand that your child may experience transitions in many different ways. Are they a perfectionist? Are they free-willed? Are they left brained or right brained? These are very important factors for you to keep in mind when parenting and you are dealing with your child’s behavior; they all require different techniques to get them thinking positively.
Do they respond with great excitement and anticipation which puts them into an emotionally charged vibration? Or are they at the other end of the continuum?
Remember that they may be so engrossed in their present activity that they are not ready to stop and move to another; in that case, wait and try again later on, no matter how important you feel your conversation is. There are obvious situations that will make you stop what they are doing and have the conversation immediately.