Prescription For Healthy Parenting: 10 tips

Healthy Parenting
  1. Remember that discipline means to teach. Discipline is the process by which we help our children grow into fully mature human beings. Discipline is not only punishing undesirable behavior, it is the modeling of desirable behavior and values and rewarding our children as they move toward desirable goals.
  2. Be fair, firm, and consistent. A parent is fair as rules are set which are appropriate for the child’s age and abilities. Firmness means drawing a broad stroke between acceptable and unacceptable behavior. A parent can be firm, yet gentle at the same time. Consistency tells the child his world is dependable and that there are logical consequences to behavior, both good and bad.
  3. Be positive. Catch the children being good and tell them so. Take time to see them, talk to them, and hug them when they are doing the right and desirable things.
  4. Be a good example. Practice what your preach. Children invariably do what we do, not what we say. Values, as well as behaviors, are caught more than taught.
  5. Keep the channels of communication open. Listen to what your children are feeling, thinking, and learning. Share with them what you are thinking, feeling, and learning about life.
  6. Teach the child to appreciate the meaning of work. In so doing, they learn responsibility and acquire a sense of meaning to life. Let them see you work; work along with them; give them meaningful chores to do.
  7. Encourage learning and growth. There is no such thing as a dumb question coming from a child–every question deserves an answer even if it is, “I don’t know. Let’s find out.”
  8. Be prepared to let go at the right time. Children must grow, must learn, must eventually become independent. The parent must allow the child to gradually assume responsibility for himself or herself. Know when to turn loose.
  9. Be a parent, not a martyr. Children have rights and needs, but so do parents. There are times when it is right for the parent to concentrate on the child’s needs. But there are times when the parent’s needs must be met also.
  10. Nurture your marriage. The best gift a parent can give his or her children is a warm, loving family with two parents who love and support each other. Give time to the marriage relationship. In single parent families, nourish those family ties you do have and seek family support.